First and foremost....you gotta bare with a sista because you're going to read few things in this blog that just might ruin your day or I can give you a smile that will last an entire lifetime. Either way its nothing but love so don't take it personal. It's just a blog...remember!!
I'm having a conversation on the telephone with a friend of mine. He's telling me that women are trifling these days and don't want to live up to their expectation of being, "real women." I'll must give it to the brotha... he's educated, great job, oh la la a terrific credit score, property owner, he hits the gym on a regular and NO CHILDREN...and yes he's very straight ladies LOL. I told him women should be jumping all over him by the hour but he told me, Nope he isn't "thuggish" enough for some women. Ladies honestly, are thugs still in...or are they out. Back in the day I use to like a man with a a little a meanness to him.. maybe a misdemeanor but most definitely NOT a felony. I was like 19 or 20 then so are women in their 30's and 40's still looking for thugs? Have we become so blinded by that voodoo spell of the thug that we forgot what a GOOD MAN really is? I don't think my homeboy should be a single and meanwhile some women are holding down men in prison with life sentence, just saying. Giving up their lives for someone they can never have unless they get a governor or presidential pardon, not likely Ha!
The question at hand here is have we lowered our list of standards in order to avoid that A word ...ALONE? I know women who break up with a man on Monday and Wednesday she's move another man into her life. It's hard not having someone special in the picture but sometimes being ALONE is perfect for when YOU need to get YOURSELF together. If your life is chaos at the time so will any relationship you enter be destined for chaos. It's okay to take time for yourself a man is not needed ALL the time....sometimes.
I'm what you refer to as a "free chick" I don't have any children. I am free to roam until the cows come home. Please don't misunderstand that fact that I adore children and look forward to having a child of my own one day(I'm not taking applicants at the moment LOL). I had a coversation with a rather ignorant dude and it went like this.
What's your name? Tara
Yours? Kevin
Kevin: Do you live around here?
Me: Nope
Kevin: Do you have any kids?
Me: No
Me: Do you have any kids?
Kevin: Yeah 4
End of the Conversation----- There was nothing else to be said after you said you have 4 children. I don't care what you drive, where you live, what liquior store you knocked over....dude you have 4 kids and the likelyhood they are by the SAME woman.....NOT!!
We live in a world that is made of blended families. Some people make it work and others turn it into a nightmare. Should you already know what is acceptable when it comes to blended families? I know for a fact that I would never date a man with more than one child. I WOULD LOVE that ONE child to death WITHOUT any prejudice but 2, 3, 4....nope. In my opinion that just to much damn blending for me, again these are MY personal preference. I grew up in a blended family and I would never want a child to feel left out. You have to be very careful when children are involved because they become so attatched so quickly. When is a good time to introduce your children to serious companion? Is it important for the other parent to be civil with the new companion? Do you think its important to build a relationship with the companion and child? If so how?
Tossing in the towel and knowing when to end a relationship is a hard thing to do. You second guess, third guess yourself and after you call it quits then you torment yourself...I wonder is he/she thinking about me, I wonder who is at his/her place, I wonder if I should come up with an excuse to call LOL. Shut up cause everyone has done it. If you haven't then you never been in love and had your heartbroken. Here are a few key things that should let you know its time to head to the END OF THE ROAD.
1. When you can't remember the last sincere thing IF they ever done anything sincere for you..the end.
2. When you trust them less and check out alibi's more...LOL...the end
3. When you can't find one single thing to say to that person so you result to small talk...the end.
4. When they only real conversation you have is about the kids....the end.
5. When you're thinking I would rather be with the "other person" when you're with your companion...the end.
6. When you sit down and realize that you really don't know the person you thought you knew....the end
7. When he keep cheating on you and making all these outside kids but you keep taking him back...the end.
8. When you realize they aren't any help to you so you decide to upgrade to something better...the end.
Different strokes for different folks is the name of the game. I think its very important to know your limitations and be bold enough to not allow other to force your hand. People thinks it hard to find replacements but its really not. You may have had a Jordan like girl/guy in the beginning but Pippen was the bomb when Jordan wasn't handling his business, just saying.
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