DEADBEAT DADDY SYDROME

23 chromosomes from your mother and 23 chromosomes from your father now equal 100% responsibility to mothers due to an infectious disease called , DEADBEAT DADDY SYDROME.  The disease is spreading into all communities Caucasians’, Blacks, Hispanics, Asians, etc.  I am not entirely sure how this disease arrived to each community but I do fully understand consequences of how it affects the communities.  First this isn’t welcome to, “man bashing,” hour it more like “factually the numbers don’t lie cause you know damn well your child can’t eat air, they need a roof over their heads, but you had to get  a new outfit to look good so you can go out and  hook up with another woman, and then make yet another child that you CANNOT AFFORD, then you get mad when you see another man stepping in and  doing your job now all of a sudden you got the sour face because a real man stepped  up to the plate to do your job and instead of saying, thanks for helping out when I  could not be the man should…..you mean mugging the dude because you’re  unfamiliar to what a real man look like”….exhale…exhale…exhale…exhale.

Let me take a moment and place credit where credit is due.  I am not addressing this blog to the men who are by definition a great father.   A father who is not afraid to nurture their child (ren). A father who gives his last to their  child (ren) and never complain.  Fathers who sign the birth certificate to welcome the new life whether it’s his baby mama or his wife.  Men we see you doing what needs to be done, you win our respect for being such a responsible one.  I ask you to whisper in those deadbeats ears and tell them to hear the cries of their innocent child(ren).  I applaud you for doing what was meant to be done.  The moment is over so back to the deadbeats…

A deadbeat will move in with a girlfriend and take care of her children better than his.   The logic behind this is past borderline retarded.  A son needs to witness his father in a positive light because it’s a strong likelihood that his action will reflect upon his son.  A mother can cherish, support, and love but she can never teach a son how to be a man.  A daughter needs her father because from him she shall see how a woman should be treated.  It is almost the blueprint to choosing a good husband who will in the end be a great father so…..when a deadbeat isn’t there for the present you are simply screwing up their future. How can any man live with himself knowing the damage they can bring to the one of God’s gift?  Can you imagine what would have happened if Adam decided to walk out on Eve. You see what he did when they made GOD made the first time just imagine how unpleased he must with the deadbeats now.  The moral of the story is this…Take care of your child (ren) just the way Jesus took care of OUR sin. I am up out this joint. Comments on my FaceBook or open a Google account. Holla!!!!!

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First and foremost....you gotta bare with a sista because you're going to read  few things in this blog that just might ruin your day or I can give you a smile that will last an entire lifetime. Either way its nothing but love so don't take it personal. It's just a blog...remember!!

I'm having a conversation on the telephone with a friend of mine. He's telling me that women are trifling these days and don't want to live up to their expectation of being, "real women." I'll  must give it to the brotha... he's educated, great job, oh la la a terrific credit score, property owner, he hits the gym on a regular and NO CHILDREN...and yes he's very straight ladies LOL.  I told him women should be jumping all over him by the hour but he told me, Nope he isn't "thuggish" enough for some women. Ladies honestly, are thugs still in...or are they out. Back in the day I use to like a man with a a little a meanness to him.. maybe a misdemeanor but most definitely NOT a felony. I was like 19 or 20 then so are women in their 30's and 40's still looking for thugs?  Have we become so blinded by that voodoo spell of the thug that we forgot what a GOOD MAN really is?  I don't think my homeboy should be a single and meanwhile some women are holding down men in prison with life sentence, just saying. Giving up their lives for someone they can never have unless they get a governor or presidential pardon, not likely Ha!

The question at hand here is have we lowered our list of standards in order to avoid that A word ...ALONE? I know women who break up with a man on Monday and Wednesday she's move another man into her life.  It's hard not having someone special in the picture but sometimes being ALONE is perfect for when YOU need to get YOURSELF together.  If your life is chaos at the time so will any relationship you enter be destined for chaos.  It's okay to take time for yourself a man is not needed ALL the time....sometimes.
I'm what you refer to as a "free chick" I don't have any children. I am free to roam until the cows come home. Please don't misunderstand that fact that I adore children and look forward to having a child of my own one day(I'm not taking applicants at the moment LOL). I had a coversation with a rather ignorant dude and it went like this.
What's your name? Tara 
Yours? Kevin
Kevin:  Do you live around here?
Me: Nope
Kevin:  Do you have any  kids?
Me: No
Me: Do you have any kids?
Kevin:  Yeah 4
End of the Conversation----- There was nothing else to be said after you said you have 4 children. I don't care what you drive, where you live, what liquior store you knocked over....dude you have 4 kids and the likelyhood they are by the SAME woman.....NOT!!
We live in a world that is made of blended families. Some people make it work and others turn it into a nightmare. Should you already know what is acceptable when it comes to blended families? I know for a fact that I would  never date a man with more than one child. I WOULD  LOVE that ONE child to death WITHOUT any prejudice but 2, 3, 4....nope.  In  my opinion that just to much damn blending for me, again these are MY personal preference. I grew up in a blended family and I would never want a child to feel left out. You have to be very careful when children are involved because they become so attatched so quickly. When is a good time to introduce your children to serious companion? Is it important for the other parent to be civil with the new companion? Do you think its  important to build a  relationship with the companion and child? If so how?

Tossing in the towel and knowing when to end a  relationship is a hard thing to do. You second guess, third guess yourself and after you call it quits then you torment yourself...I wonder is he/she thinking about me, I wonder who is at his/her place, I wonder if I should come up with an excuse to call LOL. Shut up cause everyone has done it. If you haven't then you  never been in love and had your heartbroken. Here are a few key things that should let you  know its time to head to the END OF THE ROAD.
1. When you can't remember the last sincere thing IF they ever done anything sincere for you..the end.
2. When you trust them less and check out alibi's more...LOL...the end
3. When you can't find one single thing to say to that person so you result to small talk...the end.
4. When they only real conversation you have is about the kids....the end.
5. When you're thinking I would rather be with the "other person"  when you're with your companion...the end.
6. When you sit down and realize that you really don't know the person you thought you knew....the end
7. When he keep cheating on you and making all these outside kids but you keep taking him back...the end.
8. When you realize they aren't any help to you so you decide to upgrade to something  better...the end.

Different strokes for different folks is the name of the game. I think its very important to know your limitations and be bold enough to not allow other to force your hand. People thinks it hard to find replacements but its really not. You may have had a Jordan like girl/guy in the beginning but Pippen was the bomb when Jordan wasn't handling his business, just saying.

Stop judging on ONE aspect of a person's life!!!

I must say that America is by far one of the best places in the world to live. Freedom! Freedom! Freedom! People in other countries fight for it and we wake up smelling like FREEDOM.  When President Bill Clinton put the "Don't ask, Don't Tell" into effect it was a great thing. Times were different and not everyone was so open towards homosexuals. People were not ready to fall out the closet, just yet.  Although it wasn't so hard to pick out the Adam's and Steve's within the soldiers. The question was did it affect their job performance, NO! Did they give cooties to the other soldiers, NO!  Did they have big homosexual orgies in the middle of formations,NO!  None of those things happened and yet it took over a decade to say, its okay to be GAY an join the military. The part that has always been quite puzzling to me was the law makers in D.C. create laws to prevent discrimination and they are actually guilty of breaking the same law they created. It just as simple as this...you're either a good, bad, or mediocre solider period. You can't have sex on the battle field so why should it bother anyone who isn't in the military. What if we turned the tables on Congress and said no GAYS and start giving out urinalysis each month... watch how fast drugs become legal.

We could get into the entire ramification of homosexuality equal sin and blah blah blah blah but not today. I'll say this homosexuality and pre-martial sex both equal a sin.( that pre-martial sex is a hard one not to break) For those slow readers...if you have a baby daddy or a baby mama and your not married...sin. Adam and Steve or Eve and Cheryl....sin. All I'm saying is stop being so quick to condemn people based on one small aspect of their life.